19 Jun Forgiveness
On Father’s Day we usually reflect on the person that we are and how our parents have impacted our lives both positively and negatively. Amongst those thoughts of reflection usually also bring up both joy and pain. You know that without your parents or lack of a parent, you would not be who you are today. With that comes some sort of level of regret in some cases. We can all do better and if we could go back in time there are moments when we probably would have made a different choice.
The subject of family can be a tough talking point for most people. As they say you can pick your friends, but you can’t pick your family. It always seems like family can bring out the best or worst of us. It is like having a vice that gets tighter with the pressure that builds when life happens around us all. Most people really value the idea of family, but would rather not have the stress that goes along with those moments that bring us to tears, as family can do.
It is really hard to not have a loving family or one that views your love as an entitlement. Every circumstance is unique; only you know what can be fixed and what will never be repaired. That is why forgiveness is the hardest choice we make in life. There are moments when the scars just seem like they will never go away. Sure, no one likes to talk about those feelings or we would just rather sweep them under the rug. However, does that really help us heal?
People are people and sometimes we don’t recognize the consequences of the choices that we do make. The greatest gift on Earth is love, but it is also can be the most destructive weapon in this world. If you choose to forgive you open yourself to future pain and if you hold onto the hurt, you will never see the world for what it could be. The best part of life is that we control our fate within our own hands and we are ultimately are the final decision makers on the direction we take our lives. Forgiveness is a gift that you give yourself, but someone is able to benefit. You never know, maybe the gift you give yourself will change the world for the better or open the heart of someone that you love.